Showing posts with label rejection. Show all posts
Showing posts with label rejection. Show all posts

Saturday, April 25, 2009

Unanswered
















Should I call again? What if he didn't get the first message? Does technology fail to connect us, or do we, as humans, sometimes fail to make an impression? What do you do when someone says no, or fails to respond to your advances?

I have heard some argue that to "succeed" in dating, you have to be able to withstand multiple rejections. This is not so different from selling a product, making it into grad school, or making it in the art world. I know I have submitted artwork multiple times to the same institution, hoping that this time around we will be a better match. Is it okay to approach the same love-interest more than once, even if he or she says no or is non-committal the first time? How many times is too many to express interest in the same person before he/she says yes?


Piece above: "And wanted you to know..." Embroidery on fabric. 4.5" X 3.5". 2007. Excerpt from unanswered love letter. See IvivaEmbroiders.etsy.com for more info.

The text says: "and wanted you to know that I found you sweet and warm and playful and unpretentious. I enjoyed talking to you about art, and felt comfortable with you, moreso than I have with anyone in a while. I was actually surprised by my sense of ease with you and am still" 

Tuesday, April 7, 2009

How long can I wait for you?


You know how it goes. You're at a party and you meet someone wonderful, only to find out an hour into the conversation that he/she is already dating someone. You exchange business cards, and promise to send information about a potential job lead. Really, you're hoping to be too charming for your new crush to resist a lunch date.

How long is too long to wait? Have you ever waited for someone to become available? And if they do, does the resulting exchange live up to your expectations?

Piece above: He Wears His Heart on His Sweater. Embroidery on fabric. 2008. Prototypes of men I have dated, avoided dating, and loved.

The man's sweater says (excerpted), "It feels as though our time has come, but waiting has worn you down. What do I have to do for you to feel secure? I want us to happen. What do you mean I took too long to make up my mind? Hon, our time is now."